First Date? Don’t Say This…

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Is it too soon? Photo by Des/CBS Radio

Is it too soon? Photo by Des/CBS Radio

We all know not to say “I love you” on the first date. Right? Learn from relationship expert Kathy Dawson the anatomy of “I Love You” on Good Company WKYC TV-3.

Here are 4 things you should never say on a first date:

1. “I’m not quite over my ex.” Who wants to fall for someone who is still attached to someone else and not even trying to hide it? By saying this, you’re basically holding a big red sign that reads, “drama.”

2. “I did the craziest thing last weekend!” Listen, we all do crazy things … drunken, stupid, crazy things, and while there is a chance your date will laugh at your weekend exploits, there’s also a chance he will judge you based on the crazy stories you tell. That’s what people do on first dates – judge! Don’t hand the ammunition right over to him. Read More: Texting Your Way To Love

3. “I want to be married by the beginning of next year, and pregnant by next summer.” Life goals are great, but sharing the timeline you’ve created for yourself in regards to dating, marriage, and children only succeeds in scaring men off, even before you’ve had dessert. When he hears this, he can’t tell if you’re interested in him, or just in a rush to meet your personal deadline and just need a warm body.

4. “This year has been really tough; let me tell you why.” In some way or another, life can be tough on all of us. But, if your hardships and struggles are your first choice of topics of conversation, you’re not sharing your life – you’re sharing your negativity. Nobody wants to date someone who drags them down or seems unstable emotionally.

Written by We Love Dates for YourTango.com.

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  • http://supergirl1094.wordpress.com supergirl1094

    I agree with this :) There are several other things you should probably avoid for first dates as well, only because first dates is when we are learning about each other, trying to figure out if this is someone we want to be with or not and who they are. So if someone tells me they cheated before but have changed or talk about past girlfriends then that’s a quick turn off in even considering that relationship, especially if they decide to talk about past girlfriends. It’s fine when it’s later on in dates or when we decide to make it a relationship but not on a first date.

    • http://desiray.wordpress.com desiray

      We like to think it’s not this much work ;-) I believe you just have to go on dates with the mindset that you’re going to have fun, learn about someone new and possibly make a new friend. If it goes beyond that, good. If not, nothing ventured nothing gained.

      • http://supergirl1094.wordpress.com supergirl1094

        Lol I guess it’s not all that much work at all :) I tend to over-think things or think a lot about not wanting to mess up :) But you are correct it isn’t that much work, just go out and have fun and see where it goes :)

      • http://desiray.wordpress.com desiray

        Sounds like you’re dating. I’ll bet we could have some fun conversations ;-)

      • http://supergirl1094.wordpress.com supergirl1094

        Nope not dating right now :) Boyfriend broke up with me in January but not ready to start dating just yet. :P Though I will agree that there are loads of fun conversations and playful arguments lol even now as friends :)

      • http://desiray.wordpress.com desiray

        There’s too many men out there – my daughter and her bf broke up in January as well. It took a while, but she’s good now – goes on several dates!

      • http://supergirl1094.wordpress.com supergirl1094

        Well not to many just a large variety of men out there :) I’m glad that she is better now! :) lol I’ve been thinking about going on dates soon myself but feelings and thoughts are holding me back right now so decided not to rush anything and to take my time :)

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